Every married couple must overcome problems over the course of their
relationship. Obstacles are part of life. Everyone faces them, but couples have the
privilege of facing them together.
Below, we’re breaking down five everyday marriage problems most couples will
encounter at sometime in their relationship. Let’s take a look!
1. NOT MAKING TIME FOR EACH OTHER.
Time is a valuable commodity. You must make time for one another if you want
a happy marriage. However, it’s easy to get bogged down by careers, kids, and
all-around busy schedules. The direct result of being too busy is losing valuable
time with your spouse.
How to tackle the problem: Sit down together and have a chat about your
schedules, and how you might be able to create more time for one another.
There’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. Each couple will have to craft a rhythm
that works for them. The big takeaway is to build something that works for you
both and allows you to have more quality time together.
2. GETTING OUT OF SYNC.
Life can throw us out of sync with one another from time to time. Often, this
manifests as a breakdown in communication and understanding. When we
can’t understand where our spouse is coming from, it’s impossible to see their
point of view.
How to tackle the problem: Always go back to basics when you find yourselves
out of sync. Recall all the reasons you fell in love with your spouse, and open
yourself up to a renewed understanding of them. Remember, you’re on the same
team!
3. LOSING PATIENCE OVER EVERYDAY ANNOYANCES.
It’s a little too easy to get irritated with the people we’re closest to. Sometimes, we
lose patience and lash out at our spouses when we’re annoyed or on edge. Even
though this might seem like a little, inconsequential thing in the moment, the
little things add up to a lasting negative impact over time.
How to tackle the problem: Put yourself in your spouse’s shoes. How would you
feel if they were constantly snapping at you over little things, like the sock drawer
being left open or the dishes piling up in the sink? Then, instead of making them
feel bad about whatever is annoying you, see how you can help.
4. NUMBING OUT WHEN LIFE GETS TOO REAL.
We understand how tempting it is to disconnect and retreat into your own head
when you’re going through a difficult time. It’s natural to want to stay occupied
and keep moving at a fast pace to outrun whatever is happening.
But doing so shuts out your spouse.
How to tackle the problem: Be vulnerable with one another and share what
you’re each feeling. If you want, talk to your spouse about the positive things you
want to do to cope with the problem. Then, choose a few activities to share that
will help you stay connected and productive while you navigate the situation.
5. FAILING TO CULTIVATE INTIMACY.
Intimacy is one of the greatest joys of marriage. Unfortunately, many couples
find themselves starved for intimacy because they’re not intentionally cultivating
it. This can lead to other difficulties in your marriage.
How to tackle the problem: Make time to date your spouse, and carve out one-
on-one, alone time specifically for intimacy. You’ll be surprised at how much a
little intimacy can re-invigorate your passion for one another.
Provided by Dr. Les and Leslie Parrot
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