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5 Everyday Problems and how to tackle them

Updated: Jan 5

Every married couple must overcome problems over the course of their

relationship. Obstacles are part of life. Everyone faces them, but couples have the

privilege of facing them together.


Below, we’re breaking down five everyday marriage problems most couples will

encounter at sometime in their relationship. Let’s take a look!


1. NOT MAKING TIME FOR EACH OTHER.

Time is a valuable commodity. You must make time for one another if you want

a happy marriage. However, it’s easy to get bogged down by careers, kids, and

all-around busy schedules. The direct result of being too busy is losing valuable

time with your spouse.


How to tackle the problem: Sit down together and have a chat about your

schedules, and how you might be able to create more time for one another.

There’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. Each couple will have to craft a rhythm

that works for them. The big takeaway is to build something that works for you

both and allows you to have more quality time together.


2. GETTING OUT OF SYNC.

Life can throw us out of sync with one another from time to time. Often, this

manifests as a breakdown in communication and understanding. When we

can’t understand where our spouse is coming from, it’s impossible to see their

point of view.


How to tackle the problem: Always go back to basics when you find yourselves

out of sync. Recall all the reasons you fell in love with your spouse, and open

yourself up to a renewed understanding of them. Remember, you’re on the same

team!


3. LOSING PATIENCE OVER EVERYDAY ANNOYANCES.

It’s a little too easy to get irritated with the people we’re closest to. Sometimes, we

lose patience and lash out at our spouses when we’re annoyed or on edge. Even

though this might seem like a little, inconsequential thing in the moment, the

little things add up to a lasting negative impact over time.


How to tackle the problem: Put yourself in your spouse’s shoes. How would you

feel if they were constantly snapping at you over little things, like the sock drawer

being left open or the dishes piling up in the sink? Then, instead of making them

feel bad about whatever is annoying you, see how you can help.


4. NUMBING OUT WHEN LIFE GETS TOO REAL.

We understand how tempting it is to disconnect and retreat into your own head

when you’re going through a difficult time. It’s natural to want to stay occupied

and keep moving at a fast pace to outrun whatever is happening.

But doing so shuts out your spouse.


How to tackle the problem: Be vulnerable with one another and share what

you’re each feeling. If you want, talk to your spouse about the positive things you

want to do to cope with the problem. Then, choose a few activities to share that

will help you stay connected and productive while you navigate the situation.


5. FAILING TO CULTIVATE INTIMACY.

Intimacy is one of the greatest joys of marriage. Unfortunately, many couples

find themselves starved for intimacy because they’re not intentionally cultivating

it. This can lead to other difficulties in your marriage.


How to tackle the problem: Make time to date your spouse, and carve out one-

on-one, alone time specifically for intimacy. You’ll be surprised at how much a

little intimacy can re-invigorate your passion for one another.


Provided by Dr. Les and Leslie Parrot

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